TEXT: Deut. 24:4-5, Hos. 2:19, Jer. 29:6, Prov. 18:22, Mal. 2:14
Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the Lord: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the Lord thy God giveth thee for an inheritance. When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken (Deut. 24:4-5). And I will betroth thee unto me forever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in lovingkindness, and in mercies (Hos. 2:19). Take ye wives, and beget sons and daughters; and take wives for your sons, and give your daughters to husbands, that they may bear sons and daughters; that ye may be increased there, and not diminished (Jer. 29:6). Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant (Mal. 2:14).
This will be a foolish ways for young people who believe in the marriage for the future. Know there are so many ways by which people may often enter into marriage. If you interview the married, they will tell you the stories preceding their marrying to their spouse. This might extend from even getting the wrong spouse in the wrong place and at the wrong time. Whereas it is only by doing it right from the onset that you can have the honour and the joy of marriage. Marriage is life and different people enter into this life in many different ways. Marriage also can be compared to death. Many people enter into death through different channels. Some persons may pass on through accident, others go through diseases. Yet, others go through weather related problems. Still others go through different kinds of methods. The fact is that they die. The fact is you are inside a marriage and how you get there will determine what is going to be on the journey for you. To raise towards a family you need to put God first. You do so by asking questions. What is God’s will in this? Can I be sure? If you are not sure you must talk to people, counsellors, christians, pastors who can guide you into the truth of the Word of God.
- Entering through the storm – Eph. 5:5, Heb. 13:4, Rev. 22:15
For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God (Eph 5:5). Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge (Heb 13:4).
Storm is commotion. It is an attack. Some people enter into marriage gate through the storms of life, ways that are offensive to God. When you are not married and you packed into somebody else’s, life that is entering into the storm. Entering into the storm is entry through other way apart from Christ. Some cultural marriage is a stormy one as most people will realize. The cultural, traditional ways that are at variance with scriptures will be the stormy pathway to any form of marriage. You must decide whether you want to enter through the scriptures or through the storm. The storm is a symbol of terrible weather like a cyclone. It is a storm that is commotion, turmoil and clamor, this is what you get when you enter through path of a storm. If you have done so, repent, restitute if possible. Ask for God’s help because there is nothing impossible with Him.
- Entering through sin? – Heb. 13:4, 1Tim. 5:14, Gen. 19:5-8, Jn. 4:17-18, Lk. 3:19
I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully (1Tim 5:14). And they called unto Lot, and said unto him, Where are the men which came in to thee this night? bring them out unto us, that we may know them. And Lot went out at the door unto them, and shut the door after him, And said, I pray you, brethren, do not so wickedly. Behold now, I have two daughters which have not known man; let me, I pray you, bring them out unto you, and do ye to them as is good in your eyes: only unto these men do nothing; for therefore came they under the shadow of my roof (Gen 19:5-8).
You enter through sin when you commit fornication and you have to be forced to marry or to live together because you already have a child. Those children are called children born out of wedlock. They are not bastards or illegitimate but you have brought them into the world through a wrong path. Unless care is taken and restitution is made and repentance and forgiveness is received from God, they are bound to be crisis, greater storms and more problems. Nobody should deceive you by thinking that violating God’s law in marriage has no consequences. You may know somebody who has entered through sin and everything looks rosy and good. This might create a wrong impression for you to think that those things that God has spoken in His words don’t really matter again in marriage. That is not to be true. Once you trace the story to life and association of such people for a long time you will be able to see a consistent pattern of lack of peace, fighting, rancor, problems and in extreme cases divorce. The marriage that is meant to be enjoyed becomes endured to keep within the marriage. This is why you mustn’t enter any form of marriage through sin. Sin is violation, repent of any of your violations, pray for God’s forgiven.
- Entering through self – 1Cor. 7:36-38
But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry. Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better (1Cor. 7:36-38).
Many young people wrongly think that parents consent is not so important. To feel that you can marry someone without the approval of your father and mother is not only wrong but sinful. To whom will you when there are problems? You can’t disown your family because you are in love with someone. Parental consent is not just necessary because you need them to attend your wedding and make it glorious, the bible commands that your parents must consent to give you out in marriage (1Cor. 7:36-38). Don’t think only of yourself, think of the Word of God and the future. You are not on your own, your parent and pastor must know about your marriage. Pray and ask God to help you do the right thing no matter how inconvenient.
- Entering through sex – Lev. 18:23, Gal. 5:19-21, 1Cor. 3:17
Neither shalt thou lie with any beast to defile thyself therewith: neither shall any woman stand before a beast to lie down thereto: it is confusion (Lev. 18:23). Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God (Gal 5:19-21).
Adultery and fornication defile you. Your body is the temple of God (1Cor. 3:17). A woman can defile you in the same way you can defile a man (Rev. 14:4). Don’t let someone corrupt, contaminate or deflower you through adultery and fornication. You dishonour God if you must marry someone because you are already involved in immorality. It’s a disgrace for a woman to allow a man to see her nakedness without being married. Men can seduce through sweet words, so be careful. Civilization or not, the only person who must see your nakedness is your spouse on the day you get married. God says ‘he that defiles or destroys the temple of God him or her shall God destroy’ (1Cor. 3:17). This is not an empty threat, therefore abstain from all appearances of evil.
Prayer: Father, help me not to do anything that will make you destroy me here or eternally.
- Entering through scriptures – 2Tim. 3:16, 1Cor. 15:10, Jam. 1:21-23, Phil. 2:16
All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: (2Tim. 3:16) But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me (1Cor. 15:10).
Do things right and your life will be right. When you enter into marriage and there problems, you need to be able to pray and plead your case about your obedience to Him. Many people messed up their lives and then bring it to God expecting Him to mop it up for them. Not so fast. Do it right from the onset. If you have missed it because you didn’t know the truth of God’s Word, you can be forgiven, if you do not go back to the mess again. Doing it right is for your own good. All God’s laws are for our own benefits. You may not comprehend the meaning. God is more interest in obedience than in unrepentance. Pray and ask for the wisdom to be able to obey God in the area of marriage.